I was really depressed today and my gf convinced me to go take a bath and then a nap and when I came back out into the main area of our apartment she had cleaned, lit candles, and made me dinner I’m gonna fucking cry I love her so much
I really appreciate how she’s taught me to run through a checklist of what might be wrong when I’m down and I’ve learned to do the same with her. The questions are all super basic but help me a lot like:
- have you eaten recently?
- have you drank water?
- have you done something for your hygiene yet today?
- do you need to take a rest?
- is the space we’re in causing stress in some way? (too dirty, loud, bright, crowded, etc.)
- has something happened or is there a specific emotion you need to acknowledge right now?
- are you putting something off you need to do or a problem you need to solve and can I help you to accomplish/fix it?
Idk just having someone help me assess my feelings and give me space to open up has really made it so i shutdown due to depression/anxiety less and communicate more clearly. It’s really helped us not fight or get frustrated with each other.
